Obituaries

In Memoriam

On this page, we remember fondly some dear members of the department.

With great fondness

An image of the galaxy

Colin Bell

Brenda Corti

 

Tony Coxon

 

Ian Craib

 Leonore Davidoff


Ioan Davies

David Lockwood 

Dennis Marsden

 

Peter Townsend

 

Harold Wolpe

 

Mary McIntosh

Stanley Cohen

 

Ray Pahl

A man lives so many different lengths of time.

 

Cuanto vive el hombre por fin? Vive mil dias o uno solo? Una semana o varios siglos? Por cuanto tiempo muere el hombre? Que quiere decir ‘para siempre’? Preocupado per este asunto me dedique a aclarar las cosas.

– Pablo Neruda

How long is a man’s life, finally?
Is it a thousand days, or only one?
One week, or a few centuries?
How long does a man’s death last?
And what do we mean when we say, “gone forever’?
Adrift in such preoccupations, we seek clarification.

We can go to the philosophers,
but they will grow tired of our questions.
We can go to the priests and the rabbis
but they might be too busy with administrations.
So, how long does a man live, finally?
And how much does he live while he lives?
We fret, and ask so many questions –
then when it comes to us
the answer is so simple.
A man lives for as long as we carry him inside us,
for as long as we carry the harvest of his dreams,
for as long as we ourselves live,
holding memories in common, a man lives.

His lover will carry his man’s scent, his touch;
his children will carry the weight of his love.
One friend will carry his arguments.
another will hum his favourite tunes,
another will still share his terrors.
And the days will pass with baffled faces,
then the weeks, then the months,
then there will be a day when no question is asked,
and the knots of grief will loosen in the stomach.
and the puffed faces will calm.
And on that day he will not have ceased,
but will have ceased to be separated by death.
How long does a man live, finally?

A man lives so many different lengths of time.

– Brian Patten

  1. Stanley Cohen, Professor 1974-1981. Died January 2013. « ESSEXSOCIOLOGYALUMNI

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